I wrote an article captioned before I say I do in 2017. If you care to know what that was all about, here is the link to the article https://afro387.com/2017/02/10/before-i-say-i-do/
I was 23 at the time and I still strongly stand by those words. It has actually reminded me of what I value most in a relationship and what I can’t compromise on. With the ever rising rates of divorce, it is very important to choose a life partner whom you have a genuine natural friendship with. You need not feel like you are walking on eggshells in a relationship, let alone a marriage. So yes, before I say I do, I need to be sure he is my best friend and that he is one I am very comfortable around and the truest version of myself.
Communication should not be hard with all the different ways to keep in touch today. If you cannot call, you can text. Also, if there is something on your mind, whatever it is, trivial or not , just say it. I would like to know. It’s not really about what you say but how you say it. There should be no reason why one party should feel that they cannot be vocal in a relationship. In my opinion, nothing should be off limits. We get to know each other better when we communicate. Effective communication goes a long way to clear ambiguity and the need of wanting to get into a person’s head.
We are friends, we communicate and then we build trust. What’s the point in being with someone you cannot trust. Trust is tricky, trust can be broken by the most innocent of souls. Regardless of this, there should be some level of trust where your mind is at ease.
2022 and the principles have not changed. What would you look out for before you say you do?