There are lots of expectations from friends, family and society that we are constantly trying to keep up with. While some of these expectations come from a good place and hence justifiable, I believe it is really up to the individual to decipher what he or she deems fit or right.
Bottom line, do whatever you feel makes you the happiest. Everyone in your life has an opinion about you and most often, those opinions are expressed from the perspective of whoever is expressing it. That is, their opinions are expressed to their benefit. Their expectations from you when they are involved in the equation. That is why whichever direction you decide to go, there will be something negative or pessimistic that comes up.
Putting yourself first or doing things that makes you fulfilled is never selfish. In actual fact, that is selfless. As long as you are happy with your life, you are able to give the best of you to the people around you.
Be you by staying true to yourself. Not everyone will like you for who you are and that is okay. Unless you are a comedian, you are not meant to make everyone happy. Do you by doing the things you love. It is those little things that gives you inner peace. It doesn’t matter who is in favour or not. Be you, do you. You are who you are for a reason. If anyone doesn’t understand that, they might want to ask God.
In being and doing you, be sure not to compare yourself to others, don’t imitate or wish to live someone else’s life. It is okay to take some positive pointers from others but that should be as far as it goes.
Be you, do you. Your happiness lies with YOU!
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